How can I make my mum feel guilty?

She has ruined me pretty much and she doesn't even see how she is and what she has done. When I bring up things she done in the past she denies that she done it and says i'm crazy. I just think back and she's so f*cked up, I really hate her!! And the f*cked up thing is 1, she doesn't even realise it, or 2, she tries to make it seem like she is the victim and others are at fault. one of them is true, if it's 1 then she has a mental illness and that's sad, and if it's 2 then she is a manipulating b*tch! So eigher one is f*cked up, so how do I deal with this? how do I find out if she's mental or if she's just a manipulator? and if she's a manipulator then how do I make her feel guilty for everything she has done to me?